Tips for Coping With Family and Friends During the Holidays
The phrase, “be happy, it’s the holidays,” is repeated over and over again during the holidays. For many this time of year creates a sense of dread and anticipation of deep grief and mourning because a loved one will not be present. It is difficult to be happy when happiness is at the bottom of the list of emotions.
Let go of expectations. Holiday traditions provide comfort for many but for others they represent the open wound of grief. It is acceptable to hold off on making commitments to attend gatherings of family and friends. When an invitation is received make your acceptance conditioned upon whether you feel up to attending when the day arrives. Taking a wait and see approach removes the pressure to pretend everything is good when in fact it is not.
Express true feelings. Often during the holidays there is the expectation of joy and celebration. Seek out those who understand your need for an open expression of pain and sadness. Being in the presence of individuals who are comfortable with that type of honesty, who are not attempting to make everything better, is therapeutic and essential to healing. Share your feelings with them. Allow yourself to express dark feelings to make room for the light to shine in again.
This holiday season, Baue Funeral Homes, Crematory & Memorial Gardens is again offering help and guidance at its annual Holiday Remembrance Programs. This complimentary program includes education and information on coping during the holidays and a beautiful memorial candle lighting service. Surround yourself with others who are coping with loss, and use the opportunity to remember your loved one, hear their name read and find the resources available to help you through your journey of grief.
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